In this piece for Equally Wed, Jacob writes about fighting for marriage equality, his four weddings with Diane, and how marriage changed for the couple after they transitioned from same-sex to opposite-sex in the eyes of the law.

My wife and I have been married four times.

In our 23 years together, we have taken every opportunity to obtain even the smallest sliver of recognition for our relationship.  In our first year together, back when Diane and I were both 22-year-old baby dykes, we drove from Pocatello, Idaho, to West Hollywood, Calif.,—during the winter in a VW bus with no heat—to sign the city’s domestic partner registry; even though it granted us no additional rights or responsibilities....Read More.