Queerly Beloved: The Secret to Staying Happily Married?
June 19, 2014
Queerly Beloved is "packed with gender insights and plenty of drama," writes Rachel Kramer Bussel in a piece on Slate.com titled, "The Secret to Staying Happily Married During and After a Gender Transition."
In the Slate interview Diane and Jacob Anderson-Minshall talk about Queerly Beloved and "explore what the transition from Suzy to Jacob did—and didn’t—change, for both of them."
Diane, what made you so gung-ho about Jake’s transition?
Diane: Jake was very kind in the very beginning. He said, if you don’t want me to do this, I won’t do this. I remember the day that changed for him; he said something to the effect of even if we broke up he was going to do it. I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for a couple hours, because it was very sad to have him say that.
But I’m a problem solver. I realized he’d been searching all his life for something, and this was it. I couldn’t wallow in my own emotions; I had to be there for him. It was important to me to be a good wife. We both felt it was going to be extra work to make sure we didn’t break up, because everybody told us we would.