Carrie S. calls the memoir, "a beautiful love story and a fascinating look at gender issues," and gives it an 'A-' rating.
"So much of this book is about the search for identity, much more so than it’s about the specifics of gender and sexuality," Carrie writes. "How do we define ourselves? What happens when our definitions of who we are offend others, or cause them pain, or confuse them, or simply don’t fit?"
She notes that one reason Diane and Jacob's relationship survived their transitioning identities is because they continued to identitify as a couple.
Carrie would have prefered the section on foster parenting have been moved to another book and says, "The narrative is better when it focuses on Jacob’s transition and how Jacob and Diane work as a team to adapt to this change in their lives."
"Above all," Carrie notes, Queerly Beloved is "a powerful reminder that there is no single “gay” or “transsexual” or “male/female experience”."